is ending a relationship so hard?).
a doubt, the most painful part of any relationship is having
it end. Many, if not all, of us have had relationships that we truly
believed in, that we loved, with someone we cared about a great
deal and maybe have even loved, that ended. Being the overly thoughtful
and inquisitive person I naturally am, I couldn't help but wonder
about what manages to get us through that dark time that can plunge
some of us into deep and severe depression.
only answer I've managed to come up with is as complex as relationships
themselves. When we begin a new girlfriend/boyfriend relationship
there is an excitement: feelings of anticipation and a new beginning
fill us, and that person we're involved with comes to mean so much
to us. If it is a healthy relationship, then our self-esteem is
lifted and we're made to feel beautiful, handsome, smart, and funny.
We believe that they care about, love, and need us as much as we
do them. For some, the drastic differences that a good relationship
can bring about are dramatic.
of the wonderful emotions that a new relationship brings, therefore,
and considering how attached we can become to that other person,
when the relationship is called off, it can, I believe, make us
feel as though all the good things that the person made us feel
were all lies, or untruths told because they thought it was what
we wanted to hear. It is that confusing, and difficult possibility
that causes so much of the pain we feel. In addition, for some unknown
and odd reason, too many times when a relationship is broken, we
tend to go our separate ways, instead of actually keeping in contact
as just friends. The fear of rarely being able to see each other
makes the break up even more difficult.
truly believe that all of us find the "one" that we're supposed
to be with, the one that makes our lives complete, and truly happy.
The painful part is that, most of the time, the first, second, or
even third person we date is not the right one. The problem arises
because when we first meet someone we don't know whether she/he
is "the one" or not. They make us feel loved, cared for and
special and we become attached, hoping that we've found that special
a relationship I'm in ends, and I become hurt, I try to remember
that, if we separate, then the other person was obviously not the
person that God wanted me to be with and now that we are merely
friends, it leaves me open to search for the soulmate that God is
trying to bring into my life. After all, don't you think you'd be
even happier with someone He chooses rather than who you yourself
might choose on your own? So, because we're human, when we or the
other person, realizes that we're not made for each other and end
the relationship, our hearts are broken.
hurt, unfortunately, is part of living is part of being human
but I try to keep the attitude that says, "if we really weren't
meant to be together, then I'm glad we're not. Now I have more time
to focus on finding my real soulmate." Losing a close friend
is, without a doubt, very difficult but personally I believe that
enduring a few broken hearts is worth it when, in the end, true
happiness is the reward.